I was raised in rural Ireland, where I currently live. There is a prevailing culture here which values what others think of you above just about everything else. There seems to be a desperate need for approval amongst most people. As I have stressed many times, approval is like a disease that causes us to […]
Continue readingWhen we feel insulted or slighted, it saps our energy and enthusiasm for life. A few simple words can have a devastating impact as we replay them in our minds, desperately trying to work out why someone felt the need to say such a thing to us. The same process takes place when they do […]
Continue readingI am a firm believer that we are born with great mental strengths.It is just that each day, we let life eat away at us; damaging our self-esteem and confidence.I recently watched this excellent video form Amy Morin, where she discusses the importance of mental strength in helping her get through some incredibly difficult life […]
Continue readingI have always stressed the importance of loving yourself. Where I come from, if somebody says that you love yourself; it is intended as an insult. But, loving yourself is the most natural thing in the world. It is not about having fancy ideas and notions about yourself. Love is a verb and as such, loving yourself […]
Continue readingSometimes the difference in whether you succeed or whether you don’t comes down to one simple thing – believing in yourself. Have you ever thought about how much believing in yourself makes a difference in your quality of life? Think about it for a minute. If you don’t really believe that you can do something, […]
Continue readingWe each have many thousands of thoughts every day. Many of them come in the form of self-talk. How you talk to yourself is important for your confidence and self-belief but incredibly; it is often overlooked. Self-talk is a soundtrack that’s constantly playing in your head, and its impact is dramatic. The conversations you have […]
Continue readingUncertainty plays an enormous role in your worry patterns. Chronic worriers want to know outcomes before they happen and can’t stand the doubt and uncertainty that comes with so many life situations. To the chronic worrier, the worry pattern is a good way to predict an outcome. They need to know exactly what’s going to […]
Continue readingAlthough you may not be aware of this in your everyday life, how you take care of yourself is critical to your quality of life. Self-respect is indicative of how you view yourself. And showing self-respect keeps your positive feelings about you flowing and growing. Feeling good about yourself and demonstrating self-respect are a chicken […]
Continue readingEveryone has a past. You’ve experienced exciting moments and wonderful memories that you’ll keep with you forever. Yet, you’ve also likely been through situations that were challenging and full of heartache. If aspects of your past were particularly daunting, which is quite common, you may feel guilty about some of the things that you have […]
Continue readingMany people speak of self confidence and self esteem as if they are the same thing but that is not true. Self confidence is action related whereby you can be confident in one area of your life but not in another. Self esteem is how you value yourself and your place in the world. There […]
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