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Anything you want to do in life is going to require help from other people. You simply cannot do it all on your own. You can do your best to minimise the involvement of others but you cannot remove them entirely. In many cases, your interaction with others will merely be a quick touchpoint where you have a specific need and they can meet that need. Of course, in some cases, it [...]

​Throughout much of my working life, I have had an issue with perfectionism. I wouldn’t take action on things that I really wanted to do until I was sure I could do it perfectly. Of course, this left many things undone. It left many more things being done frantically to meet tight deadlines as I had wasted too much time before starting. It is only in recent years that I hav [...]

Micromanaging is a term that is most often used when talking about time management. It is not usually seen as a good thing. It involves trying to manage every little aspect of the job, project, business, etc. I believe a great deal of micromanaging comes from the person having a lack of trust/faith in their ability. They are afraid that if they allow anyone else to make a decis [...]

In the part of rural Ireland that I am from, we have a common insult that is used to refer to certain people – ‘a tool’. It means an idiot. But in most uses, it is not that they are any harm to others; if anything, they do more harm to themselves with the way they behave. There is another way in which I would use the term ‘a tool’ to describe someone; that is someone [...]

Anything you want to do in life is going to require help from other people. You simply cannot do it all on your own. You can do your best to minimise the involvement of others but you cannot remove them entirely. In many cases, your interaction with others will merely be a quick touchpoint where you have a specific need and they can meet that need. Of course, in some cases, it [...]

The old song says that ‘Silence is Golden’ but I can only assume that the person who wrote the song never had to deal with somebody who used the silent treatment as a weapon of choice. Through my coaching, I have been approached by many people with relationship issues. You may not be surprised to learn that one of the most common problems is the dreaded silent treatment. Re [...]

You probably think of aggression in its most violent form i.e. shouting matches and fights. Aggression actually refers to anytime that you try to get your own way without any regard for others. There are varying levels of aggression. Sometimes, it may be easy to spot aggression but quite often it is more subtle, manipulative and exploitative. When dealing with somebody who is b [...]

​Trust forms the basis of every relationship. It is essential that people can accept that you are who you say you are and, you will do what you say you will do. The converse is also true i.e. you must be able to trust others. Without trust, you would have to do absolutely everything yourself as you could not depend on others to get the job done. When you are trying to establi [...]